The other day was my birthday and it was, personally, a pretty uneventful day for me. Woke up in the morning, had breakfast at Rodic's with a friend who was staying over, did some groceries for the lunch i promised to prepare for the office (sundried tomato pesto on angel hair pasta) and then cooked those groceries.
It was a pretty uneventful day...until they bombed (?) Gloreitta 2. Thus, that day will be forever known as "The day G2 got bombed," not a happy thought.
I haven't been listening to the news for the last couple of days, but apparently there is now a 3-M bounty for the damn bomber.Of course we hear the predictable interpretations of both sides. Government saying it's a terrorist job, and the opposition saying it's just a diversionary tactic and a prelude to martial law.
Regardless whoever may have done it one thing is clear for now, based on the Human Security Act, the bombing of G2 is technically not an act of terrorism. Why? simply because there has been no unlawful demand as of yet. So if they file the charge, well, it should be dismissed because there's no demand.
With this example, we see the inefficiency and shortcomings of the law to really protect the masses from terrorism. We also see why conspiracy to commit terrorism is all the more stupid. Since terrorism is obviously a crime of result, you cannot convict a person of the crime of terrorism unless you get all the results that you want -- unlike in murder or homicide, the only thing you have to make sure there is that the person died. In terrorism, there are still a lot of elements which would have to be proved. Unless the act brings about the intended results, there is no terrorism.
Anyway, i'm really getting sick and tired of people who have claimed innocent civilian lives just for making a "statement". Don't they get it? The people you're complaining about were born dense and evil. What makes you think their conscience would still allow them to make a drastic change in government if you do these things? And if government really does these things, how much power and money do you want to say "enough"? You're like King Midas. I hope you turn into gold so you can just sink.
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Sunday, October 14, 2007
Birthday Dinner
It was pretty early to celebrate a birthday dinner. But since there were three of us in my highschool barkada celebrating our birthdays this month, and our schedules hardly ever meet, we decided to have it tonight, somewhere cheap but still quality food. It's actually funny because we only invited two other couples (we were nine in all, i was the only 'single' person there, so i'm counting my other friends with their respective couples as 'one'), it felt like we just did a dutch treat.
So there we were in Sharmila, Dampa, Seaside along Macapagal Ave., pigging ourselves out with seafood. Already we were planning our Christmas party, this time, hopefully out of town for two days. As usual, i was the odd woman out, so i'll be bunking in with my adoptive parents.
Imagine, we've known each other since we were kids, i mean, we were classmates in the round building (pre-school) and have been friends since grade school, some in highschool. That's more than twenty years of friendship already. And funny thing is, even if we don't see each other regularly, each time we see each other, it's as if we've just met up the day before. We grew even closer as we went our own separate ways, growing up using different paths, but still finding our crossroads every so often, or maybe we've already made our own crossroads to accomodate one another.
That's one blessing in life i'm happy about.
So there we were in Sharmila, Dampa, Seaside along Macapagal Ave., pigging ourselves out with seafood. Already we were planning our Christmas party, this time, hopefully out of town for two days. As usual, i was the odd woman out, so i'll be bunking in with my adoptive parents.
Imagine, we've known each other since we were kids, i mean, we were classmates in the round building (pre-school) and have been friends since grade school, some in highschool. That's more than twenty years of friendship already. And funny thing is, even if we don't see each other regularly, each time we see each other, it's as if we've just met up the day before. We grew even closer as we went our own separate ways, growing up using different paths, but still finding our crossroads every so often, or maybe we've already made our own crossroads to accomodate one another.
That's one blessing in life i'm happy about.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
An Open Letter to J.E.
Dear (?) JE,
Where do i begin. This is quite unusual for me. My basic principle in a friend's love life is: "Matatanda na kayo, alam nyo na kung anong dapat gawin. You got yourself into this mess, and so you get yourself out." especially when, in this instance, i really don't know how your relationship went on. For some reason however, i cannot just let what happened pass. I mean, even if i change the heading, and change the initials, i could still blog what i think about what happened. i guess the only difference would be the thicker cloud of anonymity.
Don't get me wrong. This is not part of the backlash that you're so scared of. I am not writing this just to get even with you, nor am i writing this to condone the shortcomings my friend might have had during your relationship with her. I actually just have a few questions. You should understand that my default advice (since i believe it has worked for me in the past) to my friends is, just walk away -- with your head held high, and without a backward look. And i think to some extent, your ex is doing just that.
I think you should also understand that i am the type of person who would be putting myself in your shoes right now to even try to approximate how you were feeling before this thing happened. This serves many purposes: so that i wouldn't blow my head off with rage or revenge; i could be the devil's advocate when somebody else is ranting; i don't waste precious emotions on the situation; getting over would be much easier; but most of all, because i always believe that if i were in your place, i would truly be convinced of the legitimate reasons for doing it and that it would be worth all the trouble, the pain, and the tears.
Also understand that I am unlike some of my friends who would want to rip your head off as well as your new Gf's. I even agree with your ex that she shouldn't get back all the stuff she's given you, not the phone, the laptop, the furnishings, the ipod...Why? because like her, i also showered my partner -- who i had a long distance relationship with -- with gifts (but of course nothing would beat what she has given or done for you, i mean, the most expensive gift i gave him was a celfone, the rest were like, chichacorn, chocoflakes, keychains, etc. etc.). Eventually when we broke up my ex offered to give it back, and he was, from the start, uncomfortable with the fact that i was doing these things for him. I think his pride and ego was hurt, because i was the 'provider'. In fact, it was one of the reasons why we broke up. Oh well, we can't do anything about it when he was insecure about these things.
As i was saying, i totally understand why couples shouldn't be insisting these things given with trust, love and devotion be returned, no matter what the reason. Be it "the love just slipped away," a change of sexual preference, infidelity (with the same sex or not), or simple boredom. So that's not my issue either.
Besides, whatever in the world will my friend do with those stuff? She can afford to give it, she can afford not to take such depreciated stuff back (although we can always give it to charity).
I know your ex may be difficult. Believe me, we have tons of shouting matches to prove it. And of course she has her insecurities -- but then again, who doesn't? And you may be right there in saying she pushed you away. I would concede at some level. Blaming her for pushing you away is however different from pushing you away towards another person. Being an intellectual and mental person who has read many books and seen many things, i would think you'd see that difference. If i may, in case you didn't get the memo, becoming involved with somebody is a purely personal thing. It is purely within your power to prevent it. So it is totally in bad taste that you would put blame or would even imply that your ex is also at fault here. You know why? If you're not happy, you can always just break up.
So anyway, here are my questions, which i hope i would eventually get answers for. Preferably, for the public to see as well, as this is an open letter you see...
If you knew she had issues, why propose?
If you knew you had issues, why propose?
If you knew your relationship had issues, why propose?
Knowing you had this other girl, why propose?
I can imagine you would be thinking that love, being the ultimate goodness in this world and could overcome everything, was enough for at that time for marriage...and that at that time, you found your "the one"...but did you have to propose? doesn't trust, loyalty, kindness come into the picture at all? How about toblerones? Does it matter at all that she bought white toblerone around the time you proposed? Is it a test or something? Like if she buys gifts for your 'family' she can get the ring? Is that how you see marriage? That it can run purely on love?
I am baffled. I guess the reason also that i have this thing about weddings and marriages (especially without divorce law) is because it's such a lifetime commitment...thinking about it makes me choke. As i once said, "I believe in marriage too much to not even want to get married."
And that's why i'm so confused. i'm not mad, no matter how difficult that might be for you to believe it. you can even ask your ex. she and i, at this time, don't talk about you much. i think i'm the one who's the most unreactive about this whole thing as compared to my other friends who are now exercising superhuman efforts in self-restraint, if only because they know they won't go down to THAT level. They're better than that i would say.
So i'm pretty much fine with the other issues, except the proposal thing since you've also said you'd rather be walking around the park with somebody else, holding somebody' else's hand...and yet you proposed -- the same time you were thinking about somebody else. wishing for her.
Confused adn bewildered,
R.
P.S. I will be collecting the $400 soon.
Don't get me wrong. This is not part of the backlash that you're so scared of. I am not writing this just to get even with you, nor am i writing this to condone the shortcomings my friend might have had during your relationship with her. I actually just have a few questions. You should understand that my default advice (since i believe it has worked for me in the past) to my friends is, just walk away -- with your head held high, and without a backward look. And i think to some extent, your ex is doing just that.
I think you should also understand that i am the type of person who would be putting myself in your shoes right now to even try to approximate how you were feeling before this thing happened. This serves many purposes: so that i wouldn't blow my head off with rage or revenge; i could be the devil's advocate when somebody else is ranting; i don't waste precious emotions on the situation; getting over would be much easier; but most of all, because i always believe that if i were in your place, i would truly be convinced of the legitimate reasons for doing it and that it would be worth all the trouble, the pain, and the tears.
Also understand that I am unlike some of my friends who would want to rip your head off as well as your new Gf's. I even agree with your ex that she shouldn't get back all the stuff she's given you, not the phone, the laptop, the furnishings, the ipod...Why? because like her, i also showered my partner -- who i had a long distance relationship with -- with gifts (but of course nothing would beat what she has given or done for you, i mean, the most expensive gift i gave him was a celfone, the rest were like, chichacorn, chocoflakes, keychains, etc. etc.). Eventually when we broke up my ex offered to give it back, and he was, from the start, uncomfortable with the fact that i was doing these things for him. I think his pride and ego was hurt, because i was the 'provider'. In fact, it was one of the reasons why we broke up. Oh well, we can't do anything about it when he was insecure about these things.
As i was saying, i totally understand why couples shouldn't be insisting these things given with trust, love and devotion be returned, no matter what the reason. Be it "the love just slipped away," a change of sexual preference, infidelity (with the same sex or not), or simple boredom. So that's not my issue either.
Besides, whatever in the world will my friend do with those stuff? She can afford to give it, she can afford not to take such depreciated stuff back (although we can always give it to charity).
I know your ex may be difficult. Believe me, we have tons of shouting matches to prove it. And of course she has her insecurities -- but then again, who doesn't? And you may be right there in saying she pushed you away. I would concede at some level. Blaming her for pushing you away is however different from pushing you away towards another person. Being an intellectual and mental person who has read many books and seen many things, i would think you'd see that difference. If i may, in case you didn't get the memo, becoming involved with somebody is a purely personal thing. It is purely within your power to prevent it. So it is totally in bad taste that you would put blame or would even imply that your ex is also at fault here. You know why? If you're not happy, you can always just break up.
So anyway, here are my questions, which i hope i would eventually get answers for. Preferably, for the public to see as well, as this is an open letter you see...
If you knew she had issues, why propose?
If you knew you had issues, why propose?
If you knew your relationship had issues, why propose?
Knowing you had this other girl, why propose?
I can imagine you would be thinking that love, being the ultimate goodness in this world and could overcome everything, was enough for at that time for marriage...and that at that time, you found your "the one"...but did you have to propose? doesn't trust, loyalty, kindness come into the picture at all? How about toblerones? Does it matter at all that she bought white toblerone around the time you proposed? Is it a test or something? Like if she buys gifts for your 'family' she can get the ring? Is that how you see marriage? That it can run purely on love?
I am baffled. I guess the reason also that i have this thing about weddings and marriages (especially without divorce law) is because it's such a lifetime commitment...thinking about it makes me choke. As i once said, "I believe in marriage too much to not even want to get married."
And that's why i'm so confused. i'm not mad, no matter how difficult that might be for you to believe it. you can even ask your ex. she and i, at this time, don't talk about you much. i think i'm the one who's the most unreactive about this whole thing as compared to my other friends who are now exercising superhuman efforts in self-restraint, if only because they know they won't go down to THAT level. They're better than that i would say.
So i'm pretty much fine with the other issues, except the proposal thing since you've also said you'd rather be walking around the park with somebody else, holding somebody' else's hand...and yet you proposed -- the same time you were thinking about somebody else. wishing for her.
Confused adn bewildered,
R.
P.S. I will be collecting the $400 soon.
Monday, October 8, 2007
Crabbing
I hate it when people are such crabs. I am a believer that we shouldn't waste our energy, emotions, rag and grief over stupid stuff. (For example, a girlfriend throws a plate on the boyfriend just because he picked her up late -- stone, stone from heaven...) but i am all the more a believer of that saying, if you can't say something nice...shut up!!! especially if that person isn't all that great in the first place, or couldn't even do a better job.
I know we all know it already, but i just want to say it again for effect...one of the reason why we can't move on is because people are such crabs. instead of making constructive criticisms, you only hear bitterness; instead of doing a better job and owning up to mistakes, you only hear excuses not even a grade school kid would dare to give the teacher; instead of moving on to prevent the same thing happening again, you only see sulking and bitching about it to others. (kinda reminds me of what the president's daughter said about joey dv's hair...which was splattered in the headlines...sheesh...)
Get on with the program. You're dragging everyone down. You're making others feel miserable. If we just take the time to shut up, and do what we're supposed to do instead of wasting time bitching about nondescript things, then this world would be a better place to be in.
Yes i know i am bitching, but this is just a reaction to some people can be really mean and ugly.
I know we all know it already, but i just want to say it again for effect...one of the reason why we can't move on is because people are such crabs. instead of making constructive criticisms, you only hear bitterness; instead of doing a better job and owning up to mistakes, you only hear excuses not even a grade school kid would dare to give the teacher; instead of moving on to prevent the same thing happening again, you only see sulking and bitching about it to others. (kinda reminds me of what the president's daughter said about joey dv's hair...which was splattered in the headlines...sheesh...)
Get on with the program. You're dragging everyone down. You're making others feel miserable. If we just take the time to shut up, and do what we're supposed to do instead of wasting time bitching about nondescript things, then this world would be a better place to be in.
Yes i know i am bitching, but this is just a reaction to some people can be really mean and ugly.
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